Love is probably the one word that can be argued of its meaning by any and everyone. I wish I could simplify what it means to me. In an effort to do that I can say this.
I believe that in order for me to fulfill my purpose in life, I must find love in all things. Love for me is the essence of divinity. It is anchored in wisdom. Even though that may sound fluffy and airy as if it lacks substance, it really isn’t. When I learned the difference between the way I relate to someone or something and how that can change, I came to understand that changes have to be made sometimes in order to maintain love. My heart opened up and I felt a freedom like I had never felt before.
When you have lost someone that you love so deeply that you can not imagine going another day, another moment without them, it forces your heart to open up in a different way. I have experienced this type of loss and I can declare that the love does not die. You must relate to that person in a different way. The way you relate may now be lighting a candle or dedicating a few moments of your day to their memory.
For me, this has shown the ever changing waves of life and relationships. It is most important to keep the love and change the relationship if it demands to be changed.
When I have been deeply hurt or violated by someone whom I share love with. I have learned that the violation served as a way to get my attention. I may need to shift the way that I am relating to that person. They may hold a position in my life that is no longer needed. The way I am relating to them may be hindering the ability to grow for both of us. The relationship may require space. It may require less time spent. It may require gaining a closer connection and understanding of each other. It never ever requires to throw love away, not for me. It does call for me to find where the love is and to nurture that. It does call for me to be willing to make whatever changes that must be made to maintain that love. Change is hard and scary sometimes. Change can often give the perception of losing something valuable, when that isn’t the case at all. In evolution, there is preservation. When love is what is being preserved, we are able to grow beyond what we thought possible.
I have no desire to leave this earthly existence without knowing that I stood strong and true in loving. It is imperative that my loved ones know without any doubt that I walked in the spirit of love.
I am not ready to declare what should be or should not be for anyone else. I can only speak to what is true for me and share that in hopes that someone who reads may find some light in a dark space.
Relationships change by nature
And love…
Love is love by nature
Ifayinka 