I think that one of the most difficult yet rewarding things to go through is transformation. While I do acknowledge that there are some things in life that have the ability to transform us the moment they happen, I find change to be a long and strenuous process. Sometimes it seems that as soon as we become comfortable with our way of thinking and how we relate, we are prompted to dig deeper, go higher, and see broader so that we can continue to evolve. It is a process of constant evaluation and gut checking that we go through in order to change the habitual thought process that keeps us stagnant.
For me personally, it was my children who brought this very important understanding to light. My children challenged everything I thought I believed in. I carried firmly (or so I thought) my beliefs in many things. Most of it was based on how I perceived myself in the world. My view was limited, but it was the reality I created for myself and what I thought was my duty to teach. I would lay down the law and sit in agony as my children would tear away at my demands, and force me to take a long hard look into my own self. Most of the time it was I who had the lesson to learn. I was constantly faced with the possibility of changing my own perceptions and beliefs. I found this to be difficult yet liberating. I began to understand that our children are oftentimes our best teachers.
In many ways I feel my children helped to prepare me for my current walk with Ifa (Divine Wisdom). They help to keep me humble and open to true acceptance, and compassionate correction. When I bow my head in submission to Divine will and understanding, I know that in order to have a balanced life, the only one I have the power to change is me. One positive thought, one healthy choice, one difficult moment, one glorious feeling at a time. Ase
Ifayinka 