Win the War

When I first sat on the divination mat as a client, one of the concepts I had trouble embracing was that I had enemies. Let alone that they were hiding in plain sight, under the disguise of love. I remember going through the messages I received with my husband and saying to him that I couldn’t imagine that anyone who truly knew me would wish me harm. I do not have a great deal of close friends. There were very few people in my inner circle, and most of them were blood relatives. I struggled with the possibility of it. However, I knew that it was important for me to trust the answers I was given to the prayers I had made to be shown the truth. My motto was, “You don’t ask questions you don’t want the answers to”. I did the ebo (sacrifice) that was prescribed and went on my way. Not fully understanding the power of the door that was unlocked for me, I turned my focus to working on the things that were told to me to personally work on to better my situation. The truth was not immediately shown to me, but eventually the coverings began to fall off, and I was shown one by one, every single message that Ifa revealed to me, including who my enemies were.

If someone would have told me then that the people who I was convinced were bonded to me would be who they are to me today, I would probably laugh in their face. 

I had to learn that some who see you evolve and make changes in your life that elevate your spirit, will attempt to diminish that evolution because they view it as a threat to the way they need to perceive you. I learned that some people want a front row seat to watch your pain and suffering, not because they want to comfort you or help you through it, but because they have a need to identify with that pain. I learned that some people are so encapsulated in their way of thinking that they become hardened like stone, and view your fluidity as a threat to their reality. I learned that some people want to learn your weaknesses so that they can exploit them for their own desire to feel that they are above you. Some people want to love you, but their addiction to envy, lying, gossip, malice, fear, grudges, disfunction, and self righteousness is far more important than having a true connection with or seeing you. I had to learn that the people who carry this type of energy are enemies, and Ifa showed me who they were in my life. 

Knowing who your enemies are is one thing, knowing what to do with that realization is another. I had to learn to be okay with the truth, and not fall into the trap of fueling the fire of hurt and disappointment. I needed to see my responsibility in keeping unhealthy relationships thriving. I had to learn how to protect myself in spirit and nature from the stench of ill will towards me. I had to learn that winning the war sometimes comes through losing a few battles. The war has everything to do with me defeating my own personal demons, and answering the call to walk in my purpose and destiny here on earth. 

At the end of the day people are people. As long as there is life, there is the possibility for change, redemption, and forgiveness. The wisdom in not getting caught up in what someone else is doing to you, or feels and thinks about you, is giving yourself the freedom of not becoming attached to the very spirits they are entertaining that cause them to not see you. Don’t feed the negativity with your thoughts, emotions, and behavior. Know that the true enemy resides in the spirits that the people feed, most of the time those spirits are so grotesque and heavy, the people are in need of being released from them. Pray that they find their way to healing. Remember that you are shown the truth so that you know what you are dealing with, and you are given a remedy of how to deal with it. There is power in being gracious and walking away with love in your heart for the person, while rejecting that which is meant to bring you harm. There is power in honoring where you truly stand with someone and accepting that truth. 

May Olodumare continue to bless all of our lives. Ase! May Ifa continue to show us the truth. Ase! May Ogun keep us strong. Ase! May Osun continue to heal that which hurts us and replace our hurt with joy. Ase! May we always have the support and guidance of Ori, Egungun, Egbe, Irunmole, and Orisa. Ase!